Something the Lord has been speaking to me about lately is how to receive and give godly correction. As much as we’d like to avoid it, all of us need pruning from time to time. Hopefully, we are vulnerable enough to receive it from the Lord first, as it’s much less painful that way.
I’m born to boldly speak, write, pioneer and lead. Whether I like it or not, this sets me up for much praise, but also much criticism. How I field and filter both of those things determines whether I maintain Christ-like growth or fleshly burn-out. So, the Holy Spirit is often speaking to me [daily] about my heart, speech, demeanor, and I do my best to make adjustments when hearing Him.
This is part of a lifelong process of growth – or in biblical terms, sanctification.
There are times though we need a little help from our friends. There is wisdom in council and close friends sometimes see things we just don’t see. However, this is also where it becomes tricky. Not everyone speaks objectively. Different personality types play in. Some also speak out of hurt, others jealousy, misunderstanding, and still others lack of wisdom. For these reasons, we have to be vulnerable, but not so vulnerable with everyone, because not everyone speaks from the Spirit at all times.
I want to share a few distinguishing markers the Lord has been speaking to me regarding correction vs. accusation. These are valuable to me both as a leader who is learning to correct, but also someone who himself needs pruned from time to time.
Correction desires to help.
Accusation desires to hinder.
Correction helps to rebuild.
Accusation helps to destroy.
Correction seeks restoration.
Accusation seeks separation.
Correction wants to lift up higher.
Accusation wants to tear down lower.
Correction considers misunderstanding.
Accusation leaves no room for it.
Correction finds balance in differences.
Accusation blankets with overgeneralization.
Correction is salted with hope.
Accusation is salted with condemnation.
Correction looks at hearts before actions.
Accusation looks at actions before hearts.
Correction is Godly.
Accusation is fleshly and demonic.
I’ve found these markers to be a good tool in distinguishing between the voice of God and the voice of an enemy, both on the giving and receiving ends. I hope they help you too! 🙂